Longtime combatants in the dating wars, psychologists and those who study the lives of singles talk about increasing dating fatigue. They say more and more people are taking dating sabbaticals or declaring they will let romance happen by chance, not commerce. Once-obsessive online daters are logging off, clients of speed dating services—which offer dozens of encounters in a roomful of strangers—are slowing down. A book due out in January, "Quirkyalone," offers "a manifesto for uncompromising romantics"—those not opposed to romance but against the compulsory dating encouraged by the barrage of books, Web sites and matchmaking services.
11.29.2003 9:40 am EST